But have we gone too far? Delia Lloyd asks whether we’re at risk of talking about romance and intimacy in a way that underscores what’s different across generations, rather than what they have in common.

An old friend got in touch not long ago to tell me she was working on a memoir. She was writing about what it was like to start dating in her mid-40’s, after ending a long, largely sexless marriage. She asked me to take a look at an early draft.

I was expecting stories of lame pickup lines, mediocre pasta dinners with would-be suitors and long walks in comfy cardigans. Instead, I found myself reading frank and detailed accounts of sex clubs…threesomes…and, well…fit. (Yeah, that kind of fit.) In short, her memoir wasn’t so much about dating as it was about sex.

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The manuscript was raw and refreshing. My first thought was “Wow, she’s really putting herself out there! She’s so brave!” It wasn’t until a couple of years later that I questioned my initial reaction. Why should sexual experimentation-and enjoyment-be considered bold in midlife? Why did I immediately think her story sounded more suited to that of a 20-something than a middle-aged woman?

There’s an obvious answer to that question. The narrative we’ve long been fed in both popular culture and research about dating and intimacy among “older adults” (which usually means over-50) tends to centre on physical decline, compromised function and loneliness. (altro…)

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Emotional detachment does not just happen out of the blue; there is always something behind it. If one or both of the spouses has an inability or fear of talking through the issues in their relationship, then this kind of disconnect will be the likely result. Usually both know there is something wrong, but they are hesitant to bring it up because they fear their spouse’s reaction. Or perhaps they feel like they’ve been through this before and it hasn’t helped, so why bother? In these cases, there needs to be a clear second look at what it means to resolve conflict in a marriage – how to have a “good fight,” as it were, that really brings things to resolution. Without these skills, and a real courage to step up and deal with problems, the emotional distance will just continue to grow.

Living in denial

A lot of times, when things have started to go a bit sideways in the relationship, we don’t want to admit that it’s happening. Often the person truly needing to make some significant changes is most content to deny the existence of any real issues. We kind of live in denial, as if it’s not really happening, or it’s not that bad, or things will get better in time. But living in denial doesn’t fix things; it only causes the marriage to deteriorate to the point where the couple just does not feel close anymore.

Working through emotional distance

The first step to dealing with emotional abandonment is to identify the root cause and to begin to deal with it. (altro…)

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Use it as a complimentary avenue in addition to meeting women in the real world. That way you won’t be left frustrated as online dating heavily favours women given that guys play the numbers game by messaging every women. Both men and women are to blame for online dating being a time waster.

they say that on profiles because they get 100 men messaging them per day and it’s cut down the amount of unwanted messages. (altro…)

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Now that everyone is back from their internships and study abroad programs, campus is busy once again. A new semester means exciting events, spontaneous nights out, and best of all, lots of opportunities to connect with new people. But it also means chaotic schedules and changing priorities. Luckily, Bumble can help with that. Keep reading to see how you can make the most of Bumble and find your next campus crush.

Refresh your profile

The best place to start is your own Bumble profile. Revisit it and make sure it still showcases your authentic self and the kind of experiences you want to have this semester. Maybe you were looking for a summer fling and now you want something more serious ahead of cuffing season. Or maybe you just want to find a date for homecoming. If there’s anything you want to change, hit the “Edit profile” or “Complete my profile” button and tweak it so it best reflects who you are.

You can update your bio, photos, Badges, and Profile Prompts. Each of these Bumble features can be used to share a little bit more about your lifestyle-like whether you prefer study dates, happy hours, or hitting up the local thrift store. Taking the time to fine-tune your profile can help to draw in the people you’ll get along with best. (More advice on how to update your Bumble profile here.)

Use Bumble’s Advanced Filters

Once you’ve thought about what you’re looking for, narrow down your search by using Bumble’s premium feature, Advanced Filters. (altro…)

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s reunion is often discussed as the only good thing to have come out the pandemic. . What helped to zap up the Bennifer saga was that there was round 2; that they got back together made this love story ripe for cultural dialogue.

Especially one that many in a pandemic world might have been tempted to explore. It inspires to-do lists, plays with memory, has playlists making comebacks, requires multiple consultations with friends. The only method to this madness seems to be diving into nostalgia and fantasy to imagine a version of the relationship that actually works for you. Research even suggests a staggering number of couples who break up eventually get back together; it’s as high as 50%. (altro…)

And the people in relationships where they feel they really can’t count on the other one,those are the people who experience earlier memory decline

To get the clearest picture of these lives, we don’t just send them questionnaires. We interview them in their living rooms. We get their medical records from their doctors. We draw their blood, we scan their brains, we talk to their children. We videotape them talking with their wives about their deepest concerns.And when, about a decade ago, we finally asked the wives if they would join us as members of the study,many of the women said, “You know, it’s about time.”

So what have we learned? What are the lessons that come from the tens of thousands of pages of information that we’ve generated on these lives? Well, the lessons aren’t about wealth or fame or working harder and harder. Period.

We’ve learned three big lessons about relationships. The first is that social connections are really good for us, and that loneliness kills. It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community, are happier, they’re physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected. And the experience of loneliness turns out to be toxic. People who are more isolated than they want to be from others find that they are less happy, their Scottish mujeres health declines earlier in midlife, their brain functioning declines sooner and they live shorter lives than people who are not lonely. And the sad fact is that at any given time, more than one in five Americans will report that they’re lonely.

And those good relationships, they don’t have to be smooth all the time

And we know that you can be lonely in a crowd and you can be lonely in a marriage, so the second big lesson that we learned is that it’s not just the number of friends you have, and it’s not whether or not you’re in a committed relationship, but it’s the quality of your close relationships that matters. (altro…)

If you lied about that to me, and then we went out and at some point you told me or I otherwise found out the truth, I would not go out with you again. I suspect I’d also have questions that would never go away about what else you were lying about, even if I stayed with you, and of course eventually that would kill the relationship.

I’m sorry you’re on a cold streak and struggling to get dates right now, but a situation like this is uncomfortable and worse than no dates at all for all parties. If someone rules you out based on characteristics that you can’t change, you guys are not going to be a good match. posted by J. Wilson at 5:58 AM on

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We alternated who took the lead

In the first model, “the woman may have stayed home with her kids when they were little, or she worked part-time,” says Myers. “But then when her kids are older or out of the house, her career takes off.”

I felt like a failure only working 40 hours per week

Take, for example, Brenda Barnes, who left a top job at Pepsi to spend six years at home with her three kids, and was named COO and eventually CEO of Sara Lee in her early 50s. These women were always ambitious, but – by choice, necessity or because of their husband’s expectations and needs – they spent more time in a traditional mother and wife role when their go-getting peers were putting in long hours at the office or volunteering for special assignments. (altro…)