Getting answers to those questions could infuse your relationship with some excitement
“Cheating” has a broad scope of definitions and is difficult to define. Here are some of the definitions across the board:
“[T]he breaking of a promise to remain faithful to a romantic partner, whether that promise was a part of marriage vows, a privately uttered agreement between lovers, or an unspoken assumption.”
“[Cheating occurs when] two people have agreed to be sexually exclusive and one or more of them has clandestine sex outside the relationship while pretending to be monogamous and lying to their partner with active manipulation and/or omission of information.”
Why people cheat
Findings from “Betrayals in Emerging Adulthood: A Developmental Perspective of Infidelity” by Jerika Norona, et al (Journal of Sex Research, 2018) state that those researched in the study cheated primarily due to unfulfilled interdependent needs, such as intimacy, affiliation, and sexual reciprocity.
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Cheating in polyamory
“Psychologist and sex and intimacy coach Dr Lori Beth Bisbey says that in non-monogamous relationships, cheating is less about the activity, and more about violating the trust you’ve built up in your relationship. ‘In non-monogamy, you set down how you’re going to manage relationships and what the boundaries are,’ she said. ‘So when you break that, you spit in the face of the work that you’ve done in the relationship. It’s not about sex, it’s not about jealousy-although contrary to popular opinion, that is also something poly people struggle with-it’s about the lie.’”
There was some discussion as well about the concept of cheating being outdated and useless, such as the concept of virginity, and is rooted in insecurity and a desire for control. (altro…)